New to the group and sadly in need of some support from some

New to the group and sadly in need of some support from some loving vegans.
My sad tale:
I was vegetarian when I met my now husband. I was a vegetarian for 17 years, the only thing non vegan thing I consumed was feta. I have been fully vegan for 2.5 years now, and never going back.
2 months ago my husband said that I have changed and he can't handle it.
I only cook vegan food and whoever wants to eat it can. If he wants meat then he can cook it himself. I haven't cooked meat for years.
Recently just washing his dishes makes me gag so I told him I can't wash his dishes anymore. He has given me an ultimatum. If I don't start washing his dishes he wants a divorce. I told him I just can't, it makes me sick. He doesn't care..
This man used to be so caring and I am at a complete loss to understand how he can be this way. I feel like I'm in the twilight zone. It's unbelievable that me being vegan will be the end of my marriage.
He has already started to pack..

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Feb 21

Thanks for the advise. I will try that!

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Apr 23

I am so sorry you are going through this. I do not want to come across as harsh but vegan or not someone saying wash my dishes or I will divorce you is not a normal or healthy thing to say. It seems like he has a lot more underlying issues than the dishes. Have you tried to get to the bottom of what those are or will he not open.

May 11

Hey there! I would say this is a side effect of underlying issues for sure. It might be a good idea to seek out a counselor or mentor who has the marriage you are looking for or read Love and Respect. There is also the Love Dare (book) that i read and changed my heart towards my spouse. I hope that things turn out okay for you. Thank you for sharing your story!


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